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Pre-Conference Mix & Mingle

 
Author Laurie Tomlinson started a great Pre-Conference Mix & Mingle on her blog last week! It’s a great way to “meet” some fellow conferees before we travel to ACFW in a few short weeks. Visit her blog here to find out more and to meet other writers. You’ll have a few more friends waiting for you when you walk into ACFW in Indianapolis!
 
If you’re interested in joining, here’s what to do:
– Fill out your own answers (you don’t have to answer all of them!) in a post on your own website and paste the URL to that post (not your home page) on Laurie’s blog using a handy link-up tool she provides. If you don’t have a website, feel free to answer the questions in the comments below!
– Make sure to link back to Laurie’s post after you fill out your answers so any of your readers who are conference attendees can participate, too! The more, the merrier.

Here’s what to do:

– Fill out your own answers (you don’t have to answer all of them!) in a post on your own website and paste the URL to that post (not your home page) using this handy link-up tool. If you don’t have a website, feel free to answer the questions in the comments below!

– Make sure to link back to this post after you fill out your answers so any of your readers who are conference attendees can participate, too! The more, the merrier.

Here are the questions and my answers!

Name: Ruth Tredway

Location: Bolivar, MO

What you write/tagline: Historical Fiction, current work is post Civil War westward expansion setting. / “Looking back (history) – Reaching up (faith) – Going forward”

Place in the book world: Pre-published author, a novel in progress, and working on a portfolio of shorter submissions to periodicals.

On a scale of hugger to 10-foot-pole, please rate your personal space: Hugging is not my first response, but I won’t refuse a hug if offered!

The unique talking point that will get you going for hours: Quilts / Nutrition / Trivia I’ve learned in my reading/research.

People at home you’ll be missing: My husband, Walt, and our local church family.

Conference goals we can pray for? That God will refresh my vision and desire to Write His Answer, and wisdom to let Him direct where to pitch my work. And for physical comfort, dealing with a touchy sciatic nerve and lots of sitting.

Up for any contests/awards? Not this time, but it will come.

Any disclosures, disclaimers, or crucial information we must know? I’m more of a listener than a talker, and love to hang out where people are chatting. I’m a plotter, and I love research! Weird, I know, but true.

 

The Older Woman

The young man prayed a blessing on our shared meal. “…and Lord, thank you for this old couple … er … I mean, older … thank you that they… um… let us hang out in their home.”

A group of fellow believers had gathered in my home for a time of fellowship and study. My DH and I are old enough to be grandparents for most of them.

I grinned, but stayed in prayer mode until the Amen. Where I grew up, when one person prays publicly, there isn’t a lot of chatter in the room. I still prefer that model. It’s an expression of respect for the person who may be just learning to pray.  I can agree quietly with the speaker’s thoughts expressed to the Lord.

As soon as he finished speaking, however, I leaned close to the young lady next to me and whispered “What did he say?” I tried to sound indignant, but wasn’t very convincing.

During the meal, I gently reminded the group, whoever cared to listen, that it is much more diplomatic to say “more mature,” than that 3-letter word I’ve been avoiding for so long: OLD.

So, how’s that working out? Not too well. Young habits are hard to break.

We should have seen it coming – the label “OLD.” It happens more and more frequently these days for me and my DH, the Teacher. For years we’ve been able to stay active with younger people, to blend in pretty well, to be involved with them. Now, the photos of grandchildren on the mantle speak of the years passing. A white streak stubbornly grows wider through my hair. My body has betrayed the secret by adjusting my shape. It’s not as easy to blend in these days, with my growing preference for earlier bed times.

Maybe the time has come to admit that I’m “more mature.” What does that mean, exactly?

We don’t feel old, most days, but we still appear old among our younger friends. It could be time to take on a new role in our community – that of the Older Woman.

There are rights and responsibilities to this role – it may take some time to grow into.

My rights as an older woman: …(treat) older women as mothers, and with all propriety, the younger women as sisters. (1 Timothy 5:2)

I deserve respect. Finally. It’s been a long time coming. I’ve worked for it; I deserve it. Don’t I?

Wait! There’s also the responsibility of the older woman:  they are commanded to have “lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior.” (Titus 2, The Message)

During our tenure in youth ministry, I once suggested in my most diplomatic voice that we are all going to be old one day. I still remember the name of the smart-mouthed kid who flippantly shot back, “Yeah, but you’re gonna get there first!”

Yes, I am. And I’m learning to like where God has placed me for this time in life.

Comments: How can we demonstrate respect for the more mature? What are some ways we can live out the responsibilities of the older / younger generation?

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